Many many many leaders get to a point where they can take no more and are often given the advice to “learn how to say No to some things”. I understand the philosophy of this and for a long while agreed.
After reading this short perspective from Nikole Hahn a new light bulb went off in my head. It was all pretty much summed up in the paragraphs below. I encourage you to read the article in its entirety here.
People leave churches sometimes because they can’t say no. Without learning how to say no, typical, trivial ministry problems become massive, unresolvable issues. Not only did my burn-out affect me, but it affected my husband who helped me do all these things. The burn out obstructed me from worshiping God on Sunday. And yet, when you work at a church, Sunday often feels like another day.
In letting go of unnecessary ministries without dropping the burden on the pastors, I realized that Sunday can never be a time that I can worship. So I learned how to worship differently. I worship God every day by committing myself to prayer, reading the Bible, and most of the time, I use my drive time to work as time to commune with God. The worship music plays on the radio and I let the faces of those on my prayer list float before my mind’s eye. I worship Him when I write blogs, stories, and I worship Him when I hike or run or workout. On Sunday, I come with my mind-set on serving. I also take two Sunday’s off a month because it’s the only day off my husband and I have together.